What Makes People Happy?

I would go to work on the show and I felt awful every day I would go to work on the show and I felt awful every day... I felt like some kind of prostitute or something. If I feel so bad, why keep on showing up to this place?” Dave Chappelle

WHY SPEND MONEY, TIME AND EFFORT ON THINGS THAT WON’T MAKE YOU HAPPY? 6

HALE BERRY Actress Halle Berry tried to commit suicide over her failed first marriage, she revealed in an interview. Berry, 40, admits to Parade magazine that she tried to gas herself when her marriage to Atlanta Braves baseball star David Justice collapsed, but pulled out at the last minute. 7

"I have been everything, and everything is nothing "I have been everything, and everything is nothing!" Severus, Roman Emperor 8

Owen Wilson --A famous actor in comedies Owen Wilson --A famous actor in comedies. --Has struggled with drugs and depression --His partying lifestyle "could have been partly responsible" for Wilson's breakdown according to one of Wilson’s friends.

"I've just been a machine for making money "I've just been a machine for making money. I seem to have spent my life in a golden tunnel looking for the outlet which would lead to happiness. But the tunnel kept going on." Aristotle Onassis (husband of Jacqueline Kennedy) His daughter Christina Onassis felt similarly and attempted suicide.

"I've got the presidential suite," he said, "and it all came at once… "I've got the presidential suite," he said, "and it all came at once…. I realized…This will not work. It is not gonna make me happy.' … The only thing that's gonna make me happy is the joy that's on the inside of me.“ Joseph Simmons, rapper 11

""It is I that have led the most foolish life in the world ""It is I that have led the most foolish life in the world!" “I suppose I am the most miserable devil on earth". Jay Gould, millionaire 12

“Money doesn't make you happier. Last year I earned $40 million dollars. This year I earned $50 million dollars. I am not any happier." Arnold Schwarzaneggar, from the book "I Can Make You Rich" by Paul Mckenna 13

“There are so many unhappy billionaires “There are so many unhappy billionaires.” Simon Cowell, American Idol judge 14

Professor Ed Diener, found no happiness difference between richest men in the world and African tribesmen!!!

We only need $30-50,000 a year, 1,300,000-1,900,000 won a month We only need $30-50,000 a year, 1,300,000-1,900,000 won a month. More money doesn’t make us happy says Jean Chatsky, Money Magazine columnist

Money does NOT guarantee Happiness! 17

DOES EDUCATION = HAPPINESS? Voltaire, a famous French philosopher wrote "I wish I had never been born". 18

DOES EDUCATION = HAPPINESS? Philip Katz, genius programmer, died at 37 from chronic alcohol abuse. 19

DOES EDUCATION = HAPPINESS? Van Gogh was often depressed and committed suicide. 20

DOES EDUCATION = HAPPINESS? Ernest Hemingway, a writing genius, had 4 failed marriages and eventually committed suicide in 1961. He said, “Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know.”

There are many other things that can be #1 in your life, but are also dead ends for millions of people: partying, sex, music, business, philosophy and much more.

1st COMMANDMENT Don’t make ANYTHING more important than God.

SOLOMON AND HAPPINESS I said to myself, “Look, I am wiser than any of the kings who ruled in Jerusalem before me. I have greater wisdom and knowledge than any of them.” 17 So I set out to learn everything from wisdom to madness and folly. But I learned firsthand that pursuing all this is like chasing the wind. Eccl. 1:16-18 24

Does pleasure, good food, sex or alcohol, bring long term happiness? SOLOMON AND HAPPINESS Chapter 2 Does pleasure, good food, sex or alcohol, bring long term happiness? NO!!!

Does building impressive buildings bring happiness? SOLOMON AND HAPPINESS Chapter 2 Does building impressive buildings bring happiness? NO!!!

Does success in politics bring happiness? SOLOMON AND HAPPINESS Chapter 4 Does success in politics bring happiness? NO!!! 27

Does money bring happiness? Chapter 5 Does money bring happiness? NO!!! “Those who love money will never have enough. How meaningless to think that wealth brings true happiness!” Eccl. 5:10

Chapter 12 13 Here is the conclusion of the matter:        Honor God and keep his commandments,        for this is the whole duty of man.  14 For God will bring every deed into judgment,        including every hidden thing,        whether it is good or evil.

우리가 행한 모든 일들은 그것이 악한 일이든 선한 일이든 지금은 비록 숨겨져 있다 하더라도 하나님께서 심판하실 것이다. 전도서 12:13-14 이제 이 모든 말씀의 결론을 듣자. 하나님을 두려워하고 그분의 말씀을 지키는 것, 이것은 모든 사람이 마땅히 지켜야 할 의무이다. 우리가 행한 모든 일들은 그것이 악한 일이든 선한 일이든 지금은 비록 숨겨져 있다 하더라도 하나님께서 심판하실 것이다. 30

Professor Seligman Helped change psychology from studying mental diseases to studying what makes people happy. 31

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? BEING THANKFUL a) write down what you are thankful for b) Think of 3 blessings a day c) Write a thank you letter to someone who helped you.

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? BEING THANKFUL “And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.” Colossians 3:15

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? BEING THANKFUL “그리스도께 받은 평화가 항상 여러분의 마음과 생활에 깃들이도록 하십시오. 이것은 그리스도의 몸의 지체가 된 여러분의 책임이며 특권입니다. 그리고 항상 감사하는 생활을 하십시오.” 골로새서 / 3:15 34

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? BEING THANKFUL Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 35

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? BEING THANKFUL “어떤 처지에 있든 감사하는 마음을 잊지 마십시오. 이것은 하나님께서 그리스도 예수를 믿는 여러분에게 바라시는 뜻입니다.” 데살로니가전서 5:18 36

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? 2) BE KIND --visit a nursing home --help a friend with homework --write a letter to a grandparent --encourage someone --do some volunteer work

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? 2) BE KIND “Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:32

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? 2) BE KIND “친절하고 부드러운 마음을 가지십시오. 여러분이 그리스도의 사람들이라는 이유만으로 하나님께서 여러분을 용서한 것같이 여러분도 서로 용서하십시오.” 에베소서 4:32 39

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? 2) BE KIND “God blesses those who hunger and thirst for justice, for they will be satisfied.” Matt:5:6 40

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? 2) BE KIND “올바르게 살려고 애쓰는 사람들은 행복하다. 그들이 만족할 것이다. Matt:5:6 41

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? 3) GOOD RELATIONSHIPS Many principles in the Bible help relationships to improve, honesty, forgiveness, helpfulness, humility, unselfishness and more.

Jesus, wants a relationship with YOU! 43

Jesus loved you THIS much! 44

“2 There is more than enough room in my Father’s home “2 There is more than enough room in my Father’s home. If this were not so, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you? 3 When everything is ready, I will come and get you, so that you will always be with me where I am.” John 14

내 아버지가 계시는 집에는 있을 곳이 많다. 나는 너희를 위하여 있을 곳을 준비하러 간다 내 아버지가 계시는 집에는 있을 곳이 많다. 나는 너희를 위하여 있을 곳을 준비하러 간다. 모든 준비가 끝나면 다시 와서 너희를 데려다가 내가 있는 곳에 항상 같이 있도록 하겠다. 요한복음 / 14:2-3

Are you tired. Worn out. Burned out on religion. Come to me Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly."

[내게로 와서 쉬라] 수고하고 무거운 짐진 사람들은 다 내게로 오라. 내가 너희를 쉬게 하겠다. ㄴ) 나는 온유하고 겸손하니 내 멍에를 메고 내게 배우라. 그러면 너희 마음이 안식을 얻을 것이다. (ㄴ. 렘6:16) 내 멍에는 편하고 내 짐은 가볍다.‘ 마태복음 11:28-30

5 He fills my life with good things. My youth is renewed like the eagle’s! Psalms 103:5

이 목숨 살아가는 동안 많은 은덕 베푸시어 내 젊은 날 독수리처럼 새로운 힘 솟아나게 하셨다. 시편 103:5

4) SERVE OTHERS Identify your strengths, talents and skills. You can find some at: reflectivehappiness.com). For example: generosity, humor, inventing, organization, research, encouraging, leadership, etc. Use your talents to serve others and improve the lives of those around you.

4) SERVE OTHERS Albert Schweitzer, winner of 2 Nobel prizes wrote, “I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know : the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve.” 55

4) SERVE OTHERS Albert Schweitzer, winner of 2 Nobel prizes wrote: 우리의 운명이 앞으로 어떻게 전개될지 나는 모른다. 그러나 하나는 안다. 앞으로 진정하게 행복한 삶을 살아갈 사람들은 남에게 봉사하는 방법을 발견하고 찾는 사람들이다. 알버트 슈바이처(1875~1965) : 독일 선교사, 의사, 음악가, 신학자 56

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? 4) SERVE OTHERS “There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.”Acts 20:35

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? 4) SERVE OTHERS “주는 것이 받는 것보다 복이 있다'고 하신 주님의 말씀이 내 머리에서 떠나지 않았기 때문입니다.” Acts 20:35 58

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? 5) FAITH IN GOD 75% of people who go to church are happy. 54% of people who don’t go to church are happy. It’s similar with reading the Bible. Faith in God brings much more happiness to people happy!

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? 5) FAITH IN GOD “So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.” Matt. 6:32-33 60

WHAT DOES BRING HAPPINESS? 5) FAITH IN GOD “왜 그런 것에 마음을 쏟고 자랑을 늘어놓는 이방인처럼 되려고 하느냐? 하늘에 계신 너희 아버지께서는 그것이 너희에게 필요하다는 것을 너무나도 잘 알고 계신다. 만일 너희가 하나님의 나라를 어떻게 이룰까, 하나님께서 원하시는 바른 일을 어떻게 실천할까 고민하면서 그분을 생활의 중심에 모시고 살면 그분은 너희에게 이 모든 것을 더불어 주실 것이다.” Matt. 6:32-33 61

LESTER TRUBEY, --100 years old --is somewhat rich, What brought him happiness?

LESTER TRUBEY, 100 years old, says these things brought happiness: Working, raising and playing with family, children and 49 great grandchildren. Working for the church, helping people to know God. Using his hands and talents to help other people

HAVE FAITH IN GOD “Young people, it’s wonderful to be young! Enjoy every minute of it. Do everything you want to do; take it all in. But remember that you must give an account to God for everything you do.” Ecclesiastes 11:9

HAVE FAITH IN GOD “은이여, 네 젊음을 즐겨라. 젊은 시절을 즐거운 마음으로 보내라. 네가 가고 싶은데는 어디든지 가고, 네가 보고 싶은 것은 무엇이든지 보아라. 다만 모든 행동에 대해서 하나님께서 심판하신다는 것을 잊지 말아라.” 전도서 11:9 65

God—the way to TRUE Happiness